Over commit – (tr) to promise, undertake, or allocate more than the available resources justify

I am addicted to over committing.

There I said it.  This personal revelation identifying my Addiction To Over Committing (or ATOC) came to me yesterday morning, as I bounced out of bed, on a mission to get the kids ready for school.  See, I had been working on my laptop until 3am the night before, then after finally falling into bed, my brain went into mass-creativity activation for the next hour, re-processing the work I had just completed – thinking about how I could make it even better.

Fast forward to three hours later and its now 7am – I had expected to wake up tired and sluggish; pull my weary corpse out of bed, slap together a quick lunchbox for the kids and struggle on for the day.  Instead, I am right on my game, brain churning, creative juices overflowing.

I had over committed to a client. I had placed myself in a position where I had to pull out all stops and bring on the big guns. And I loved it.

In today’s business environment, we are surrounded by loud messages all pointing to finding the ultimate outcome from your working life quest – “balance”. Family/Work balance, Work/Life balance, Work/Self balance. We are continuously told that one must achieve “balance” to achieve success; that one has not truly succeeded unless they have each area of their life contributing equally. But what if this equilibrium doesn’t suit you? What if you perform best under pressure? Work well with tough deadlines? Or become bored (Me!!) when it all seems too easy?

My husband’s favorite quote is from Thomas Carlyle .diamond

“No Pressure, No Diamonds”.

This sums up ATOC perfectly. Over committing creates pressure. Pressure can be your drive, motivation and creativity trigger. Your tool to create works of excellence, sparkling ideas and visions of value – to become the ‘gem’ that your client desires.  By over committing you create the pressure that drives you to perform at your very best.

If pressure is your fuel of choice (mixed with a little caffeine usually), you must make sure you do avoid over committing evils.

  • Yes-itis – over committing to something you really don’t like, want or care about, simply because you are unable to say no.
  • Guilt – doing something just because you think it’s expected, or are being made to feel guilty by others if you don’t.
  • Lies – if there is absolutely no freaking way you can achieve what you promise, in the time frame you identify, to the standard you are proud of, don’t do it. You will lose integrity, damage your reputation and the biggest no-no – set your client up to fail as your inability to come through directly affects them.

Don’t be afraid of pressure – if it pushes you to achieve amazing results, then revel in it, and celebrate with a little ‘relax’ pressure off time afterwards.

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